I have to admit that I am beginning to get a little frustrated that us brides who are no longer enjoying the first flush of youth and are embarking on marriage for a second time (or more!), seem to have been forgotten by the wedding industry. I am addicted to wedding magazines, blogs and wedding TV just like countless other brides to be, and spend too many hours drooling over wonderful dresses for both brides and their maids, sumptious venues, amazing cakes etc etc. More than anything, I love looking at the articles on Real Weddings. Nine times out of ten they feature young beautiful couples celebrating their special day the traditional way complete with bridesmaids, groomsmen, speeches, first dances and so on. Of course I understand that I am in the minority and of course the wedding industry is geared up to meet the needs of the younger, first time couples planning their big day, but couldn't there be something now and again for the likes of me and my fellow later in life brides to be?
How will our wedding be different from the traditional ? Well, for a start, it's unlikely that I will have any bridesmaids. When I think bridesmaids, I picture young women wearing something gorgeous to compliment the bride. No offence to my friends, but I've a feeling that none of them would consider themselves as maids. That's not to say that I would really appreciate the support that is the role of the bridesmaids! Nor will I not be walking down the aisle with my dad. He's done it once before, and now in his 80's would find the whole experience too overwhelming. I would rather he just came and enjoyed himself. I am pondering whether to walk down the aisle alone or be escorted by one or both of my sons. Mr R may well not have a Best Man.He's more than capable of getting himself to the church on time and can be entrusted to look after the rings.
We want our reception to be a low key affair. What we have in mind is a celebration with our nearest and dearest enjoying good food, wine and good company without the formality, so no receiving line,speeches to speak of, no favours or formal flower arrangements, no cutting of cake and definitely no first dance.
So, please fellow bloggers, magazine editors and TV producers, would it be possible to occasionally include articles on the following..... wedding dresses to suit the not so young, or perfectly shaped bride, beauty and hair advice,real weddings featuring fifty something (or give or take a few years) couples and honeymoons not geared to spending a fortnight on a beach wearing a skimpy bikini. But for your information, we are not ready for Saga holidays just yet!!!
Ok, I've got that out of my system. I will of course continue to ooh and aah and go dewy eyed looking at gorgeous weddings. Mr R will continue to roll his eyes at yet another magazine purchased, or Wedding TV programme watched, but what a lovely surprise if once in a while I were to come across something that was appropriate to me, Mr R and our fifty something wedding.
Take care and lots of love