Sunday, 31 July 2011

Mr R speaks ...

With a little bit of gentle persuasion and blatent nagging, Mr R agreed to write my very first guest  post!  It's taken a while, but finally he's put finger to key. Over to you sweetheart........

So the countdown begins !  Only another 350-odd days to enjoy (??) my freedom (??) before hitching (being hitched by) the next Mrs R ! Of course I can only really speak in relative (forgive the pun) terms about the concept of freedom.  Brigitte and I have enjoyed an extended period of cohabiting since March 2009.  A period that has given us plenty of opportunity to get used to each other and time to properly consider whether this is what we really want for the rest of our lives.  This situation is not new to Brigitte, having lived together with her first husband prior to their marriage.  In my case, this situation was not possible owing primarily to the rather more traditional values held by my previous wifes family.  My first wife (and there has only been one) had a wish to marry in an ivory dress.  Traditional values in her family being what they were it was on her mothers insistence that the poor girl had to settle for virginal white !  And so, we plunged into the unknown with, in all honesty, some very happy times in our 22 years.

And so to Brigitte.  I, indeed we, are in complete control of planning for our big day on July 7th, 2012,  Well, not complete control of course.  The heavens could open, the planned venue could burn down, the photographer could forget to put any film in his camera !  Well in these days of digital photography I guess we can rule out the last of those eventualities.  I'm sure you get my drift but we are in as much control as is physically possible.

We considered, and reconsidered, several venues before deciding on Goldbrick House, a wonderfully atmospheric and quirky venue in the centre of Bristol.  Our one reservation is that it lacks any real outside space but in choosing a venue it is always going to be a case of balancing pros and cons.  And Goldbrick House certainly has a lot more pros than cons.  There are still opportunities for photographs of the big event in the adjacent St Georges or beside Cabot Tower at the top of Brandon Hill with wonderful views over Bristol.  We have eaten at Goldbrick House on a number of occasions and never been disappointed by the quality of the food or the service provided by the very attentive staff.

So what of Mr R ?  How does he feel about his time with Brigitte ?  How much is he looking forward to the wedding and to spending the  rest of his life with Brigitte ?  Mr R is very happy right now and feels very happy and lucky to have met Brigitte.  Of course, wedding plans are so often a girl thing with the guy just turning up on the day and signing on the dotted line.  Historically this is probably the case as the girl's parents control the purse strings so it's inevitable that a lot of the decision making comes from that side.  It's also the case that girls care so much about how things look, especially themselves, and other things cosmetic.  In this respect Mr R is very different.  He does care how things look and wants his bride to look at her very best on the special day. 

Along with venue and registrar, we now have our photographer sorted for the day.  We short-listed three from the Bath and Bristol area and plumped for Sam Gibson.  Our decision was primarily based on his contemporary style and professional approach but also on the fact that he seems a really nice guy.  We have no doubt he will do a great job without being at all obtrusive - quite a tall order in, what is after all, not the largest of venues.  No pressure Sam !

Tuesday, 5 July 2011

Cakes and Niggles!

I can't believe that it's been a month since I last posted anything here on my little blog. What a bad bloggery thing to do and I'm sitting here woefully hanging my head in shame and full of remorse! I have no excuses,except maybe that the old memory is going! But I'm at the hardly over the hill age of 50ish, so that's a pretty lame reason for not putting finger to key!

Apart from wedding plans,which I'll come to later,what's been happening in my little world? I have to say that I'm a teensy bit excited right now and have an exciting little project simmering away.I'm sure by now you know that I love to bake. We aren't big cake eaters here at chez nous (well I would be,but that's not good for the ever increasing waistline!) so I experiment and take what ever works into school.A few weeks a colleague asked if I could provide the cakes for her ladies golfing day. Wow! Thought I. People are actually prepared to pay for my cakes! So,a little seed of an idea has started to grow and now I'm seriously thinking of setting up my own little cakery business.Making the cakes is the easy part, knowing how to start up a business from scratch is another thing! Creating this blog page has been a steep learning curve and now I'm faced with the daunting task of working out how to sort out a website.I am now totally stuck and haven't a clue where to start.There is nothing in the kitty to get a super lovely web designer to come up with my very own website so it's going to have to be a case of blindly going down the DIY route.....gulp!Then there's marketing, the red tape stuff and accounts to work out.Scary! I may still get cold feet and abandon any plans of  providing Wiltshire (and further afield) with my own take on cupcakes.And yes,I know there are more than enough brilliant cupcake makers out there and not much room for one more, but wouldn't it be a challenge to see if I can do something other than be a pretty ok teaching assisistant!

A few samples from my sessions in the kitchen.They may look a little basic,and I haven't got my head around  trying to make sugarpaste pretties yet.But they all taste simply divine,which just so happens to be the name I've given my little cake venture!

Now back to wedding planning! Over the last couple of weeks little niggles have been dancing around in this head of mine! Nothing to do with getting married. Of that I couldn't be more sure,but it's the wedding itself. I worry that our venue isn't going to be right. Will our merry band of guests fit into the restaurant without being squeezed in like sardines? Is not having any outside space an issue? Will anybody bother to turn up in the evening when they have to make a trip along the motorway to get to Bristol? I love our venue. It's unique and fits in perfectly with my vision of the day. The food is delicious and the whole package is well within our budget. We would be hard pushed to find anywhere that compares.So do I really need to worry about it?

I have worried about the logistics of getting everything looking  spot on perfect at the venue on the day when I also need to attempt to make myself  look spot on perfect! How on earth to get around that? I mentioned using the services of an on the morning stylist to Mr R thinking that he would tell me to stop fantasising and no way were we going to splash out on such a non essential. I nearly fell off my chair when he agreed that I couldn't possibly do everything myself and to go ahead and sort out a stylist! Mr are my hero!
 My biggest worry is my dress and how I'll scrub up on the day! But that issue's becoming a bit of a boring subject and I've had lots of offers of help from lots of lovely friends both in person and online,so I'll say no more about that!
No doubt every couple wonders at some point in the planning if  they are making the right decisions.I don't tend to stress much so I'm quite surprised that I've already started to worry a little about this that and the other.I want everything to be perfect,but deep down I know that the most important thing is to remember what the wedding is really all about !
This week we can finally book the registrar. Mr R is under strict instructions to phone the registrars office in Bristol to secure a booking as soon as the clock strikes nine on Thursday . Once that's done we can get on with sorting out the photographer.So please come back later and find out about our journey to find our perfect photographer.
With love
Brigitte xx